From Lovers to Friends to...

I've come to terms with the fact that I'm not cut out to be friends with an ex. I have to admit that although I've realized this for a few months, I wasn't strong enough to face that fact or do anything about it. But since the ex began dating someone else, she's placed our friendship on the back burner. That was painful. It was like breaking up all over again but without the animosity. I didn't add "hurt feelings" because my feelings were indeed hurt. But thanks to a couple of friends who tolerated my daily waxing and waning about my hurt feelings, I slowly came to terms with the inevitable: I am not cut out to be friends with someone I once cared for and it was best for me to embrace this forced distance and use it as an opportunity to get over her; the opportunity I didn't have before because even though we broke up, we still remained a constant presence in each other's lives. It was a painful reality to understand that we each had different perceptions of the definition of friendship, our friendship in particular. That's ok, though. I don't harbor resentment and I wish her well. I wish me well too.